God’s truest desire for His servants is to reflect His image. To think, speak, act, and live in His ways. To walk in obedience to His Laws and His precepts. To mirror Him in every possible way.
But your transformation from your sinful state to living a godly life will not be an easy or quick accomplishment. Neither is living and acting according to His instructions. It is a lifelong process and struggle. Just like a tree grows from a seed to a mature tree, it takes time and struggle. But be assured of this, the Lord will accomplish that work within you moment by moment and day by day.
And I am sure of this, that He who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ. Philippians 1:6
That said, how does He say that you should handle offense and anger? The Lord says to be slow to anger and quick to forgive. This one aspect of your behavior will show your level of maturity and spiritual growth in the ways of the Lord.
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. James 1:19-20 Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the heart of fools. Ecclesiastes 7:9
If your brother or sister sins against you or stirs up anger within you, be careful not to act out in your anger. Do not give any opportunity to the devil, this is exactly the opportunity he is waiting for to pounce. But know the Lord is always ready to help you in your time of need.
It will be hard but through Him and the training He is putting you through you will overcome evil and grow from foolishness to wisdom. God will give you the strength to overcome such anger and prevent you from sinning because of that offense. Sin is what causes pain and suffering in your relationships. And anger is a big one. If not properly handled through the Spirit, it will lead to more sin and cause much pain and suffering.
Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil. Ephesians 4:26-27
Always remember, God always gives you a route of escape. The way of escape is to resist the devil in Jesus’ name and His power. The devil has no choice but to flee from your presence when you stand with Jesus. Put the offense behind you, it is a trap the devil has set to cause you to fall. Do not fall into his snares. The devil might be sly but he still uses the same old tricks. Learn his tricks and you will master the escape route.
You are in the same condition as everyone else. But with an advantage that can conquer any temptation. It is Jesus. It is the power of the Holy Spirit within you. We all have fallen short of the glory of God. But He is gracious and forgiving. He will not let the temptation go past your ability to resist.
Take this time to reflect on how you currently react to an offense. Are you easily angered, or are you slow to anger? Are you wise or are you foolish? Be honest with yourself. It is more helpful in the long run. If you walk in the Spirit of the Lord you will be wise. If in the flesh you will be foolish. God will give you the strength and wisdom to overcome. It is that simple.
A fool always loses his temper, But a wise man holds it back. Proverbs 29:11 A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1 Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense. Proverbs 19:11
Live with sober-mindedness and self-control. Walk and live in the love, kindness, and compassion of the Spirit of the Lord. Then you will reflect the image of God and walk according to His ways not giving in to anger or foolishness. God will give you wisdom when you ask for it and work hard to obey His commandments.
The end of all things is at hand; therefore be self-controlled and sober-minded for the sake of your prayers. Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:7-8