God’s truest desire for His servants is to reflect His image. To think, speak, act, and live in His ways. To walk in obedience to His Laws and His precepts. To mirror Him in every possible way.
But your transformation from your sinful state to living a godly life will not be an easy or quick accomplishment. Neither is living and acting according to His instructions. It is a lifelong process. But be assured that He will accomplish His work within you day by day.
And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ. Philippians 1:6
That said, how does He say that you should handle offense and anger? You should be slow to anger and quick to forgive. This one aspect of your behavior will show your level of maturity and spiritual growth in the ways of the Lord
19 Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; 20 for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. James 1:19-20
Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the heart of fools. Ecclesiastes 7:9
If your brother or sister sins against you or stirs up anger within you, be careful not to act out in your anger. Do not give any opportunity to the devil, but ask the Lord for help. He will give you the strength to overcome such anger and prevent you from sinning because of the offense.
Sin is what causes pain and suffering in your relationships, and anger not properly handled will lead to sin and cause much pain and suffering.
26 Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, 27 and give no opportunity to the devil. Ephesians 4:26-27
Put the offense behind you, it is a trap the devil has set to cause you to fall. Do not fall into his snares.
Remember you are in the same condition as everyone else. We all have fallen short of the glory of God. Every one of us has sinned and grieved God much more than anyone else.
Take this time to reflect on how you currently react to an offense. Are you easily angered, or are you slow to anger? Are you wise or are you foolish? If you walk in the spirit of the Lord you will be wise.
A fool always loses his temper, But a wise man holds it back. Proverbs 29:11
A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1
Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense. Proverbs 19:11
Live with sober-mindedness and self-control. Walk and live in the love, kindness, and compassion of the Lord. Then you will reflect the image of God and walk according to His ways not giving into anger.
7 The end of all things is at hand; therefore be self-controlled and sober-minded for the sake of your prayers. 8 Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:7-8