I pray that you are well and that the Lord is taking good care of you in every aspect of life, not just for the physical and those things that can be seen. But especially to the unseen things, your spiritual health. I know He loves you dearly and will protect His precious children, He cares for you so very much and always wants the best for you, that He will cause what seems at first to be a great pain to bring you to a place of maturity and adulthood in the knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in the Lord.
I felt the Lord leading me to write you this letter that you may have a better understanding of what and why He has caused you to be single and kept you single. I pray that God will open your heart and your eyes to see and your ears to hear, that you will understand the great importance of what He is doing, and why He must do it.
He instructed me to tell you that it is a good thing to be single. Yes, it is a very good thing He has done. He is the one who made you single. It is a good and godly place He has put you in. You see He has been teaching me this same thing ever since I became single 7 years ago.
He pointed out 1 Corinthians 7 shortly after that time to give me insight and instruction of why He did it. It was for His will and purpose, and for very good reason. It will do you well to read and meditate on this entire chapter.
I think that in view of the present distress it is good for a person to remain as he(she) is. Are you bound to a wife(husband)? Do not seek to be free. Are you free from a wife(husband)? Do not seek a wife(husband).But if you do marry, you have not sinned, and if a betrothed woman marries, she has not sinned. Yet those who marry will have worldly troubles, and I would spare you that. 1 Corinthians 7:26-28
And Paul also said, “Now as a concession, not a command, I say this. I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am.” 1 Corinthians 7:6-8
I thought, “NO way Lord, I need a spouse, I need a helper, you know me!” But then the Lord was so good, He showed me that it was His plan for me to remain like this according to His will, He always does what is best for me. It has taken a long time to see that He is in complete control, even those who have been separated from me, or ran from me, it was Him who did it.
I have drawn ever closer to Him because of my singleness because He had afflicted me with this struggle. I am more devoted to Him because of it and I do not regret one single second that I have spent seeking His face and spending time with Him. He was the one who drew me close.
For thus says the Lord GOD: Behold, I, I myself will search for my sheep and will seek them out. As a shepherd seeks out his flock when he is among his sheep that have been scattered, so will I seek out my sheep, and I will rescue them from all places where they have been scattered on a day of clouds and thick darkness.
I myself will be the shepherd of my sheep, and I myself will make them lie down, declares the Lord GOD. I will seek the lost, and I will bring back the strayed, and I will bind up the injured, and I will strengthen the weak, and the fat and the strong I will destroy. I will feed them in justice. Ezekiel 34:11-12,15-16
I also have seen that those I sought out since then, that I thought might be good for me, were not. I always seem to choose the wrong one. You may be able to relate. He wants us to stop worrying about it, stop seeking someone, and seek after Him only and His will for your life. If it is His will He will bring the right one in His time.
I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. 1 Corinthians 7:32-34
What I am saying is if God has caused you to be single, do not go looking for someone to be a partner. Because the Lord has given you the privilege of having Him as your partner and to draw you closer to His side and deeper into His affection and love. He is your spouse. It is a gift.
“Fear not, for you will not be ashamed; be not confounded, for you will not be disgraced; for you will forget the shame of your youth, and the reproach of your widowhood you will remember no more. For your Maker is your husband, the LORD of hosts is his name; and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer, the God of the whole earth he is called.
For the LORD has called you like a wife deserted and grieved in spirit, like a wife of youth when she is cast off, says your God. For a brief moment I deserted you, but with great compassion I will gather you. In overflowing anger for a moment I hid my face from you, but with everlasting love I will have compassion on you,” says the LORD, your Redeemer. Isaiah 54:4-8
He is the one you should be devoted to, the one you should seek to please, and the one you should desire. It is a special time of spiritual growth and maturity that He wants to accomplish in your life. He wants you to lean only on Him, look to Him, and not to your own understanding.
He also gave me this thought about seeking a partner of my own. “If I go and seek out the whole world for the right one, I will find a million who is the wrong one. But only the Lord knows who the right one is, the one He has chosen for me. Also, if it is His will that I remain single as Paul did, it is for my benefit and for His glory that I must remain this way. I should not work against the Lord in this manner.”
I understand what Paul was saying now. I also completely understand that this is a very hard and difficult struggle to comprehend and to move forward with this understanding at this very moment. But I know what God has planned is so much better than what you want or desire.
All I have to do is look back for a second and remember all the bad choices and decisions that I made by myself and know that the Lord’s ways, plans, purpose, and will are much better for me. He always has our good in mind. He will always work it out for good.
May the Lord bless you with His wisdom and understanding on this matter. It may be hard and difficult in so many ways to understand this truth and hard to grasp why He does what He does. But you know that your God is an all-knowing God and He never makes a mistake. You just have to give it all up to the Lord, putting it into His hands, and not take it back. Trusting completely in His plan for your life, follow and obey without question. This is the faith He is looking for.
You are here not for yourselves but to serve Him and to turn others to the Lord. To save souls from the grips of sin, death, and eternity in hell. There is nothing more important than the destination of the souls of mankind. Go ahead and lean into the Lord and draw closer to Him. Then move forward in the will of the Lord and seek to save the lost. The souls of mankind will be the only thing you will be able to take from this world with you to Heaven.
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Be wretched and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you. James 4:7-9
I pray that the Lord takes care of you in every way dear single friend. May He lead, guide, direct, provide, and protect you as you turn your face to Jesus to listen and obey Him in everything that you do. To devote yourself wholly to Him in every aspect of your life. God bless you and keep you, may His face shine upon you that you will seek the Lord all the days of your life.
Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it. For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what shall a man give in return for his soul? For the Son of Man is going to come with his angels in the glory of his Father, and then he will repay each person according to what he has done. Truly, I say to you, there are some standing here who will not taste death until they see the Son of Man coming in his kingdom.” Matthew 16:24-28