Are you in need of God’s help to forgive someone? Have you determined to forgive them because the Lord says you need to forgive. But as soon as you think you have, those same old feelings of unforgiveness, anger, hurt, resentment, and bitterness raise up within you?
Jesus said that if you do not forgive you will not be forgiven. Perhaps you desperately desire to forgive and be forgiven and to let go of all the hurt, pain, and suffering of the past. But how is this truly possible when you just can’t seem to let go?
For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. Matthew 6:14-15
What you are in need of is the love of God, the love of Jesus Christ, which only comes from the filling of the Holy Spirit. Just as Jesus possessed a love for His enemies and was able to forgive them no matter what horrors they had committed against Him. You need the love, compassion, and forgiveness that He has and is willing to give to you.
Jesus is your source to be able to forgive. When He was at the pinnacle of suffering and pain, being mistreated and killed by His enemies, He looked upon them and asked the Father to forgive them because He loved them.
To the average person, forgiveness seems incomprehensible. To love those who are literally trying to kill you.
And when they came to the place that is called The Skull, there they crucified Him, and the criminals, one on His right and one on His left. And Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” Luke 23:33-34
But without the Spirit of the Lord, without the love, compassion, and forgiveness of Jesus Christ, it is impossible to truly love your enemies and forgive and forget.
Also, forgiveness is not about what the offender says or does to make things right. It is all about the love and compassion you have for them. It is about setting yourself free from the job of judgment and punishment that they deserve and giving it completely to the Lord. Placing every aspect of it in His hand, for vengeance belongs to the Lord.
Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” Romans 12:19
What you must do is firstly, get on your knees before the Lord and purify yourself, asking and petitioning Him to forgive all your sins and cleanse yourself from any and all unrighteousness.
Then ask Him to fill you with His Holy Spirit, to give you His love, to see with His eyes, and see the pain that they are in. That you will be able to look upon mankind with the same love, compassion, and forgiveness He does. People hurt others because they have been hurt themselves. What they need is to be loved as well.
Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting! Psalm 139:23-24
Be like the poor widow (Luke 18) who continually came to the judge to ask for justice again and again and again. Keep going to the Lord, keep asking, keep petitioning for Him to give you His love.
Every trial, tribulation, pain, and hurt has a purpose. A purpose laid out by God Himself. To draw you ever closer to His side. That you may humble yourself before Him. So He can clean and purify you and make you more like Himself. To mold you into the man or woman He always intended you to be.
So then you will be ready to be sent out into the world to do the work He has prepared you to perform for the Kingdom of Heaven, without resentment, unforgiveness, hate, jealousy, anger, strife, or anything that goes against His holy Law and ways of the Lord.
That you may be filled with His Spirit to love the lost. That you will have His compassion that many may be saved from the deception of the Devil. That you may be able to love others and to finally forgive as the Lord forgives, which makes a person truly free.
You never know what your love and compassion may do for that person who has hurt you. It may draw them to the Lord through your forgiveness as well and save their very soul.
Draw close to the Lord, seek His forgiveness, and love that you may also be forgiven. That you may be able to love, have compassion, and forgive others no matter what the things they have done to you.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:29-32