Are you in need of God’s help to forgive someone? Have you determined to forgive them because the Lord says you need to? But as soon as you think you have, those same old feelings of unforgiveness, anger, hurt, resentment, and bitterness raise up within you?
Jesus said that if you do not forgive you will not be forgiven. Perhaps you desperately desire to forgive and to be forgiven. You just need the hurt, pain, and suffering of the past to be released. But how is this truly possible when you just can’t seem to let go?
For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. Matthew 6:14-15
What you are in need of first is God’s forgiveness, which comes from His love. It is accessible through Jesus Christ, which only comes from the filling of the Holy Spirit. You need to understand that unforgiveness is the agent that hardens the heart with its poison so that no good thing can flow.
But if you choose to humble yourself to repent and receive His forgiveness God can then soften and break up the soil of your hard heart so His seed of forgiveness can grow into love. Allowing the rain of His love to nourish and soften your broken heart, giving you the ability to forgive others. Because if resentment is changed to love it is easy to forgive.
Just as Jesus possessed a love for His enemies and was able to forgive them no matter what horrors they had committed against Him. You need the love, compassion, and forgiveness that He has and is willing to give to you. But just like most things God commands, you must step out in faith and repent of your sins first. Then God will give you a forgiving heart.
Jesus is your source to be able to forgive. When He was at the pinnacle of suffering and pain, being mistreated and killed by His enemies, He looked upon them and asked the Father to forgive them because He loved them.
And when they came to the place that is called The Skull, there they crucified Him, and the criminals, one on His right and one on His left. And Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” Luke 23:33-34
He chose to forgive them first. To the average person, forgiveness seems incomprehensible or unthinkable. To love those who are literally killing you. But that is the love of God. He loved us while we were still sinners.
Without the Spirit of the Lord, it is impossible to truly forgive and forget. But with the love, compassion, and forgiveness of Jesus Christ, it is possible to truly love your enemies. Even to forgive and leave that hurt behind.
Also, forgiveness is not about what the offender says or does to make things right. It is all about the love and compassion you have for them. You have to take the initiative. It is about setting yourself free from the job of judgment, misery, and punishment. Putting what they may deserve in the hands of God and allowing Him to heal your heart of any untreated pain or hurt.
Remember, unforgiveness is a poison that you drink yourself expecting the other person will die. It goes down to the inner sanctuary of the heart and seeks to kill all good things. Forgive, and allow God to heal. Put them in the hands of God, if they deserve just punishment, that job belongs to the Lord.
Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” Romans 12:19
What you must do is first, get on your knees before the Lord and purify yourself, asking and petitioning Him to forgive all your sins and cleanse yourself from any and all unrighteousness. Then ask Him to fill you with His Holy Spirit, to give you His love. To see with His eyes. That you may be able to look upon your opponent with the same love, compassion, and forgiveness He does. You never know if God may change their heart along with yours for the good of all.
But you must understand one important fact. People hurt others because they were hurt by others. Because they have fallen victim to the devil’s trap to destroy lives through offense. Their heart has been wounded by others so, in turn, they wound others. What they need is to be loved and forgiven, to break the chain of unforgiveness and hurt. There must be someone to put an end to the vicious cycle of unforgiveness.
Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting! Psalm 139:23-24
Be like the poor widow (Luke 18) who continually came to the judge to ask for justice again and again and again. Keep going to the Lord, keep asking, and keep petitioning for Him to give you His love, so that you can break the cycle of hurt and unforgiveness.
Every trial, tribulation, pain, and hurt has a purpose. A purpose laid out by God Himself. To draw you ever closer to His side. That you may humble yourself before Him. So He can clean, purify, and make you more like Himself. To mold you into the man or woman He always intended you to be. Many allow the poison of unforgiveness to kill them instead of running to the feet of Jesus. Please be the one who runs to Jesus for healing through your repentance.
If you forgive and seek God’s face about this matter He then can do incredible things in your heart that would never be possible before. He then can get you ready to be sent out into the world. To do the work He has prepared for you to perform for the Kingdom of Heaven. All this without resentment, unforgiveness, hate, jealousy, anger, strife, or anything that goes against His holy Law.
That you may be filled with His Spirit to love the lost no matter what they do to you. That you will have His compassion that many may be saved from the deception of the Devil. That you may be able to love others and finally forgive as the Lord forgives, which makes a person truly free.
Jesus said, “The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”
You never know what your love and compassion may do for that person who has hurt you. It may draw them to the Lord through your forgiveness as well and save their very soul from hell. Draw close to the Lord, seek His forgiveness, repent, and love that you may also be forgiven. That you may be able to love, have compassion, and forgive others no matter what the things they have done to you.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:29-32